"I know every minute and second counts."
With every second, we can make a decision that leads us to create a phenomenal, life-changing impact. One that affects not only us, but people around us. That's why...most of us may rush and cram stuff into our lives. We're: Becoming more impatient; Becoming more rash; Becoming less understanding and tolerant; Becoming less calm and open. As a result: The Big Bang Theory! Quite a big, unhappy, disorganized messy mess.
However, please understand that...there are times when you can't force yourself to do something in a certain span of time, especially if you lack the skill, time and mind for it. Don't do something simply for the sake of doing it or for a personal aim (looks, status, money, etc.), and making your schedule feel more compact, in pursuit of some form of meaning in life. Let's take me for example. I "mind-rest" (procrastinate) sometimes, and it can be bad thing. But sometimes, there's really not much you can do at the moment, and you can't always take up things when you're not skilled or in the mood to do it. Frankly, there's lesser long-term value and existential worth in that.
Like going for an exam the next week, but having to study last minute because you've been on the low over something huge. Chances are: the results won't really be there, even if you still tried your best to study as hard as you can. We must accept that it takes time to build something from scratch, or to grow something new. A long time. As the saying goes: "Rome was not built in a day."
And some of you, while being a rather cautious and calculative planner, need to understand that there are things we can't compensate for, even if what we have on hand, and will have on hand after working very hard for it. Especially for people and events that you can't even read or control. Like life, getting the wrong order from your favorite cafe even if you've been there all the time, misunderstandings at work and in relationships, etc. Can you say...that you can exactly predict and avoid them, accurately, all the time? Well...obviously no. Most, if not all, of us lack higher powers, for we're only human. And this brings us to what I'm hoping to share with you today. A point...in which many of us, including myself, can fail to do, when our emotions or opinions sometimes get the better of us. We tend to succumb to pressure to fit in, as assurance that we're not abnormal; a puzzle piece in the same societal set. We also tend to spiral out of control when we face unexpected outcomes and events, and when we can't broaden or expand our range of acceptance and tolerance (how much we can accept and tolerate something). Simply put, we become short-circuited and we freak out. Sometimes, we'll even proceed to say and do things that can be irreversible and hurtful for a long time. Which can be understandable. There's bound to be things and people that you don't like, no matter how hard you try to connect. Basically, it's faulty WiFi, even with an experienced IT programmer around. But then again, everyone has different personalities, value systems and reasons. That's what identifies them, and what influences them to interact in certain ways. And life's basically unpredictable. It's a gamble, a roll of the dice. You can gain or lose what you have overnight, or... You can live today, and die tomorrow.
Sorry, too dark, isn't it? So...when we approach this concept of things, we begin to understand and open ourselves to it, and thereby alter ourselves accordingly to fit in accordingly, while not disrespecting other people, and our true selves. Yes, this is how to be slightly better friends with your enemy, or your next door neighbour, 101. Sorry for digressing; let's get back on track. I also highly don't encourage you to be fake, to force yourself to be somebody, to do certain tasks and to follow trends, just to be "better" than them. Because we might regret them all later. Here are some examples:
1. Trying to impress your boss by working overtime for a month (and even a few months or years) and taking up tasks outside your job scope.
2. Forcing yourself into a relationship.
3. Forcing yourself to do things that you're not satisfied or able of doing. E.g: to go for outings when you're spiritually and physically a homebody.
4. Rushing to meet deadlines and expectations, while not being meticulous enough, and being over-concerned about your peers, including those of higher authority.
5. Forcing yourself to be extroverted and into certain topics, just to fit in with the crowds.
6. Exercising until you "think" that having a certain shape is pretty enough (yet not exactly healthy).
In the end, it *somehow* occurs to us that we're actually subconsciously doing exactly the things that don't make us happy (for the long term), and becoming exactly who we don't actually want to become. So, if you feel that your life hasn't exactly been fruitful, meaningful and eventful, with the people and events that have been in your life; it's been boring, sometimes toxic, sometimes sad; therefore you have done this and that... Maybe you would like to look again, in another light, by reassessing yourself and everything around you, and upholding to your true needs, desires and rights. Then...you'll figure out whether if it's really right or wrong for you, all the way till the end of life. #mindfulness #personallect #foodforthought #sharedblog
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