"Everyone needs a balance of salt and sugar."
Everyone has their own weighing scale of sugar and salt, and the amounts vary in different occasions.
Salt: You can be hyper-critical, cynical, a realist, and not much of an opportunist or optimist.
Sugar: You can also be sweet, caring, optimistic and dreamy.
We usually are "salty" when we're being uncomfortably honest, or expressing dissatisfaction, about something or someone.
On the other hand, we can be "sugary" if we're complimenting someone for something, being happy over something, or trying to dampen the blow of something to reassure the other party.
Some of us already quite clearly dislike "salty" people, as well as "sugary" people, especially if it's over the scale, without much consideration and effort.
Which is understandable. They seem overly optimistic or pessimistic, fake and annoying...an occasional thorn in the eye, an overwhelming attack to the mind and the heart.
Sometimes, the two parties can secretly question each other's existence, and their EQs and IQs respectively.
Thereby...creating a disharmony; underlying contrasts that can't and don't really seem to interact or fit well with each other.
And this brings us to what I wish to share with you today.
We would need to learn to gauge HOW, and WHEN, to efficiently and effectively grasp a certain balance of each element, while still being comfortable and respecting ourselves (and others, if and when you can). For today's article, we will discuss more about HOW.
Frequent Self-assessment
First of all, we need to reassess ourselves first, by questioning ourselves from time to time.
This is when we have to be very honest with ourselves, and the facts we have on hand. The truth is uncomfortable, but...there are times that we really need to grow and to face them. We can't delay or deny that any longer.
So, here are the questions.
1. What exactly is it about them that you can't exactly like?
2. Was it because they have opposing beliefs, opinions, methods and visions to the same thing?
3. Was it because they reflect something in us, especially something that we personally fear, dislike or tend to disregard?
4. Was it because they're being overly truthful, to the point that we may feel guilty and overwhelmed, and don't wish to face or admit?
Self-discovery, realization and acceptance of facts and information, can be overwhelming.
Sometimes, too much and too deep within in a short span of time can freak us out, break us down, and change us entirely.
It would take quite a big mental slap, and a phenomenally generous helping hand, to keep ourselves sane again and right back in track...onto our common goal.
So, do this process adequately in intervals, perhaps on a weekly or monthly basis; alone, or with a friend or family member.
When you start to realise the root cause, you start to "try" to understand everyone, for their personalities, their reasons, their systems.
It does seem time and energy consuming, but trust that with time and practice, you will be revealed to the truth.
Subconsciously, you will start to be more self-aware and conscious of your own actions and thinking...especially in a social environment, with other people around.
In other words, alter your behavior accordingly, to interact with them accordingly, in a reasonable way that respects you and them.
You will also start to become more empathetic, and start to accept or tolerate certain aspects better, such that they don't affect you as bad anymore.
Simply put: #Care Less, for what actually doesn't serve, or should be influencing, you.
2. Analyzing Your Nemesis, or Antagonist (The Modern Art of War 101)
Secondly, we need to dissect and analyse these people that we dislike. Especially if...you're not the only one disliking them.
Fair play, ain't it? Karma for...being not such an authentic, conscious, nice person.
We would look deeper into the dynamics of our relationships with these people; what they have done and spoken to you so far; how and "why" these actions were done unto you.
The "Why" is actually more profound, and at a later phase. Once we compile what has been done, we can sort of look into their behavioral patterns, and sort of know what they will think, or how they will react, in certain occasions.
So, conclusions can be: "They tend to do things like this, because of this reason or another, when something like this occurs."
Once you understand the underlying patterns, we can then read them easily, and predict and think of strategies to counter against them when they resort to these actions. You will also feel less negatively influenced by them.
Now, doesn't this feel, and sound like...
That victorious comeback of the returning protagonist?
*The next post shall be about WHEN. Till then, if you do like this series, keep onto this channel...I mean, website.
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